Rituals are a powerful healing tool for shifting the energetic pattern in a situation or in a space. A ritual can help you move that energy of grief so it doesn’t get bogged up inside you.
We don’t want to “give up hope,” but if a diagnosis is terminal, what exactly is it we’re hoping for? Miracle recoveries happen, it’s true, but they’re rare.
Everyone’s journey is completely unique. You will move at your pace. It won’t look like other people’s pace, and it’s important not to try and be somewhere you’re not.
An urn is a ritual object, and the more the rituals around a death reflect the person who’s died, the more meaningful, and the more soul-healing those rituals are.
Grief is an energy, and it has a watery-ness to it. We know the feeling of overwhelming grief; it can feel like being flooded, we get more than we can handle, we drown in it.
Anger around a death is natural, and it’s powerful to allow anger into a grieving space, and to learn tools for moving it, and skills for meeting it effectively.
“I’m doing really well!” “I’m staying strong.” “I’m staying positive.” is often code for, “I’m not letting myself be sad. I’m not crying, I’m not allowing myself to grieve.”
We are not our bodies. We’re our souls. Our souls live in our bodies. Our souls can experience healing whether we’re in our bodies or not.
Perhaps one of the purposes of death is that it helps us release love. Big loss and big grief show us how much we really love each other.